Stress Myths: Our mind is where the stress originates

*MYTH #5: Our mind plays a role in much of the stress we experience.*

FACT: This is a myth. Stress is not just about your mind, but is an accumulation of many factors. In fact, a recent field called Biolinguistics have brought to light the inadequacies of our old theory about mind-body relationships.

Habits are hard to break. Stress is also difficult to deal with when we focus on only trying to change our mindset. Biolinguistics point out that our bodies and words affect us in profound ways. Over the years, as we keep listening to words like "I am not good", "I cannot solve my own problems" and so on creates a powerful pattern in our life that is very hard to change or get rid of.

When you learn how to identify these negative "conversations" and "action patterns", you will be closer to eliminating the root causes of your stress.

In fact, you can even use Biolinguistics to profit from habitual patterns that may have caused you nothing but pain and suffering in the past.

Stress Myths: We need to manage stress

*MYTH #4: We need to manage stress, not to make it go away*

FACT: This is actually quite a dangerous myth. When we think that the best way to deal with stress is to manage it instead of eliminating it, we are basically saying that stress is a part of life.

Many stress experts talk about positive benefits of exercise, meditation, and relaxation techniques, but may not inform you of the *negative side* to these same coping strategies.

You see, using exercise, meditation and so on as stress management techniques are often ineffective. They are very poor strategies for dealing with certain types of problems, such as the death in the family, retrenchment or rejection. Also, these exercises take up a lot of time. Worse, the effects usually last a short while and you might have to keep doing them a few times in a day.

But really, the worse thing about it is the fact that dealing only with the symptoms of stress does absolutely nothing to cure the underlying ills. As long as we do not deal with the underlying causes, stress will persist and maybe even get worse.

So, if you think you are "managing" your stress well, think again.